How Does the Brain Work in the leveling up process?
All brains are structured similarly, but context matters. People grow up in different cultures, within different family systems; brains and humans develop differently. Each brain (and person) is unique, all having different values which which in turn helps create unique mindsets in each human brain.
What is a mindset? And how does it effect my choices and the way I live my life (patterns/actions)?
You can have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset (see Carol Dweck). I believe people can have both fixed and growth mindsets within their brain. One example that makes sense to my brain: A woman can have a fixed mindset around the topic of money. She is honest, hard working and her mindset may be—I will never make more than $70,000 per year. Her mindset belief is I have 2 degrees, in this particular field and that is the most I can hope to achieve. But what if she also has a desire to start her own business. Her growth mindset will tell her this is possible and achievable with the right resources, market, and tons of hard work! She now finds her brain having 2 possible scenarios, Boom! Conflict. She may feel torn, or upset or even stuck. This may cause her internal distress. What will she do?
If she hired me as her coach (www.willingtobeunstoppable.com) then she could work through her money mindset dilemma and get clear on how she wants to resolve her dilemma. She could begin to change her fixed mindset and transform it into a growth mindset.
When my clients find themselves stuck or resisting change I help them to see they may have a fixed mindset. Through coaching, I help clients move from a fixed to a growth mindset.
Why is this important?
Having a growth mindset allows someone to make small or big changes that will enable them to grow and reach for their new goals.
Our brains are like a vessel holding who we are and who we believe we are and who we think we can become. The brain (conscious and unconscious) is an amazing complex organ within a complex body. We all get one life to live and it is up to each and everyone of us how we want the story to play out. You may even be thinking—in that wonderful brain of yours—hey Yvonne what if I don’t know what I want? Or how to get it?
Great question my fellow sojourner on planet earth. We all find ourselves in this position from time to time. We each need to figure out: What do I want, before we can figure out how to go out and get it?
I call it: Owning the Want!
Lots of thoughts, feelings, patterns, and other people may interfere in your process. You may want to start that new business and your fear may cause an uncomfortable and uncooperative sensation in your body that you typically want to avoid. Your co-workers/friends may try and talk you out of it telling you that 20% of all new businesses fail in the first year. Boom. That's it, you are out. The fear, the other peoples voices and statistics talk you right out of the original want.
I say: Own the want. Dig into it, feel it, roll around in it. This is the first big step you must take in order to be willing to be unstoppable. Own the want.
Your brain created the want in the first place. Why? How? I do not know. But I do know that if the brain created it, there must be a good reason. So why not pursue it? Why stay stuck in the same stable existence (avoiding those uncomfortable sensations in your body).
This I believe is how dreams come true and how many people create greatness in their lives. It all begins with “owning the want”.
So let me help you achieve this. I know how to own my own wants and how to teach you and coach you into the same position. I look back in my life at times I avoided this process, it cost me years. The want never went away I just kept pushing it back, denying it, talking myself out of it and in the end I still wanted “xyz”.
I had to figure out ways to pursue my goals and dreams. But first I had to own the want. The path of Unwilling to be Unstoppable is rocky (it is designed that way) but it is doable. Hard doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be started. Having the thought that it is “too Hard” is just your brain (and society’s) way of protecting you from uncomfortableness.
So if you (like me) want to become willing to be unstoppable, give my a call at 810-275-2086 or shoot me an email: nextlevelupcoaching@gmail.com and we can talk about your desire to become unstoppable.
Yvonne Makidon